Ps 37: 8 “Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret–it only leads to evil”.
Anger is a God-given emotion. In fact, it is mentioned over 500 times in the bible.
- Deut 9:20 recorded God as being angry with the Israelites, and also with King Solomon in 1 King 11:9.
- Mark 11:15 recorded Jesus as being angry with those buying and selling in the temple.
- Mark 3:5 with those in the synagogue waiting to accuse Him of healing someone.
These recorded anger are called divine or righteous anger and is never a sin. There are positive and negative sides to how we use our anger.
Anger in itself is not wrong but becomes a problem if we allow it to control us. We find that most time anger leads us to sin, even though we are encouraged to tremble and do not sin, but search our hearts and be silent.
- Psalm 4:4 tells us In our anger do not sin.
- Ephesians 4:26 reminds us be to angry and sin not. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Anger can become a destructive force if not controlled. When we become angry the emotions that stir within us can cause us to act without thinking about the consequences. And that leads us to sin, hurting God, ourselves, others, and sometimes those whom we love. We have a choice in how we behave when we are angered because we do have control over our reactions. Each person is responsible for their anger response and will be held accountable to God for those choices.
Because of this, we must find ways to manage our anger before it gets out of control destroying our relationship with God, affecting our health, our families, homes, and our lives.
In gaining control over our anger forgiveness is necessary and vital to our success over anger. It may not always be easy but we can ask God to teach us how to forgive even when we are still wounded. It may be the hardest step but the most important one in our attempt to break free from anger.
We can manage our anger and gain freedom from the control it has over us. First, we must admit our anger. If anger is acknowledged and the root cause addressed, changes will occur. Next, we must identify the anger and what triggers it, because oftentimes anger is a cover-up for hurt and pain. Then use bible guidelines to learn strategies for healthy anger expression
QUESTION FOR REFLECTION:
Do I have feelings of revenge and judgment?
Do I hold on to forgiveness?
Do I have a feeling of hate, rage, or aggression?
Do I have flashes of temper that seems uncontrollable?
Do I find myself apologizing over and over for anger instances? Do I insult others?
Am I withdrawn or silent about my feelings?
Do I hurt myself or others (e.g., hit, slap, kick, shove, and threaten with a weapon?
Am I verbally or emotionally abusive?
Is anger controlling or dominating me?
Am I argumentative or irritable?
Do I harbor resentment, jealousy, or envy?
BREAKING FREE PRAYER FOR YOU
Lord, help me to admit I have an anger problem. Then change me as I acknowledge I am responsible for my behavior and accountable to You.
Forgive me for ……………and help me to forgive……………………………..
Teach me how to…………………………………….In Jesus name Amen